“Keep the eyes wide open before marriage and half shut afterwards.” -Benjamin Franklin
It is argued that love marriages suggest more independence and liberty as compared to arranged marriages where the girl/boy is chosen by the parents so there is stress to conform to parental expectations like producing a male inheritor, taking part in family rituals and traditions, putting up with sisters-in-laws, contributing to family expenses etc.
One of the usual questions against an arranged marriage is that how can you marry somebody you don't know. Knowing someone before marriage allows partners to have better respect and understanding for each other's needs and desires. This way they are better adjusted in the marriage when they finally take their wedding vows. This does not mean arranged marriages are the ideal sort of marriages. Having an arranged does not mean that the married couple remains happily ever after or that there is harmony in the relationship. Women have been known to stay on in abusive relationships for the sake of family pride, respect in society etc.
It becomes difficult therefore to predict the ideal sort of marriage. So ultimately it is up to the individual to decide whether he wants to have a love or an arranged marriage after all it is a question of being happy in love.
hi khairul,
ReplyDeleteI agree with you saying that marriage after all is a question of being happy in love, but the part about abusive relationship is what i don't agree much because those days we also had love marriages with problematic turn outs. it goes the same noe. I believe many marriages are love marriage and where do they end? So I do think lets put ir on the individuals to make the desicion where their marriage should end.
Hi Khairul,
ReplyDeleteFor me, the idea about marriage is the commitment that you gives, the responsibility that you have to fulfill. Those are the things that come between marriage and love... Attached and unattached... married and single person..